Caregiver Support
You don't have to figure this out alone — and you don't have to make it about loss. Here's how families have done this with respect on both sides.
If you're here, you're probably worried about a parent or partner and not sure how to bring it up. The hardest part of supporting someone's independence is doing it without making them feel less independent. This section is for that.
Toolkits
Free PDFs. No email gate.
The Conversation Guide
A 6-page script with phrases that have worked for community members, organized by situation: after a near-fall, after a hospital visit, "out of the blue," resistance to change.
Researching now · share your story →The Family Decision Matrix
A worksheet for evaluating home modifications together — what to change, who decides, who pays, what to keep exactly as it is.
Researching now · share your story →The Long-Distance Caregiver Checklist
For families who don't live nearby. What to watch for on visits, video calls, and from afar.
Researching now · share your story →The "What If" Plan
A calm framework for documenting wishes about home, mobility, and care preferences — written together, not for them.
Researching now · share your story →A short survey for caregivers
90 seconds. Help us understand what you're carrying.
- What's the hardest part of supporting your loved one's independence right now?
- What's the smallest change that would make the biggest difference?
- What do you wish you'd known a year ago?
Findings from this survey publish in the Research Lab quarterly.